As time goes by

I used to believe that choices are our own and it is within our power to make them for which we must be responsible. As time goes by, I realize that  there are always difficult choices and some things are just not meant to be. But then I do not think we should stop trying to reach for what we really want to do in our life. It is about knowing who you are and asking ourselves what we really want.

Milan Kundera writes in The Unbearable Lightness of Being as translated from Czech into English by Michael Henry Heim

“ We can never know what to want, because, living only one life, we can neither compare it with our previous lives nor perfect it in our lives to come.”  since ‘the first rehearsal for life is life itself’”. Which shall we choose  ? Weight or lightness?
The premise of Kundera’s novel is based on its author’s analysis about the dichotomy between lightness and weight in the light of Nietzsche’s philosophy about eternal return ( I must qualify that I have not read Nietzsche) and whether we can combat fate by  choosing  to live under weight like Tereza and Franz  or lightness like the characters, Tomas and Sabina. As the novel progresses, I find that both lightness and weight are manifested in all the main characters in the novel, some more apparent than others.

The story is set in Prague and it is about two men and two women living in the late 1960s.

Astronomical Clock, Prague

Tereza yearned for  her mother’s love and was willing to do anything to gain her mother’s love and she became the ‘culprit’ for her mother’s unhappiness. One day she decided to escape her old life by finding Tomas with whom she had recently acquainted when he happened to be in her town, a small Czech town some hundred and twenty five miles from Prague. Tomas, a surgeon,  went to the hotel restaurant where she was working as a waitress. When Tomas ordered a cognac, the radio happened to be playing the composition by Beethoven and she had known the music from the time a string quartet from Prague visited her town. Whenever she heard Beethoven, she would be touched. However if it was not Tomas, she might not have noticed the music.

Kundera writes,
Chance and chance alone has a message for us. Everything that occurs out of necessity, everything expected, repeated day in and day out, is mute. Only chance can speak to us. We read its message much as gypsies read the images made by coffee grounds at the bottom of a cup.’
To assuage Tereza’s sufferings, Tomas married her and gave her a puppy. Tereza wanted commitment from Tomas who was incapable of giving up his incessant womanizing. When they moved to Zurich, Tereza  returned to Prague leaving Tomas behind because she could not live abroad. After two days of her absence ,Tomas felt like he had been hit by a weight and he  had to leave his job and he said “ Es muss sein” to the Swiss doctor who had offered him the position. Es muss  sein. It must be. Tomas found himself being burdened by his love for Tereza and he returned to Prague to be with Tereza.

Sabina,  a painter  who had a liaison with Tomas would be ‘charmed more by betrayal than fidelity’ and she had commitment issues when she was with Franz, a professor in Geneva. Franz was drawn to Sabina’s persona who was a revelation to him as she  came  from a land where there were incidents of ‘persecution, ‘enemy tanks’, prison’ , banned books and he felt that by contrast his life was  light. Franz desired weight as opposed to Sabina who represented lightness and to Frank, Sabina represented a different dimension .

Sabina protested. She said that conflict, drama ,and tragedy didn’t mean a thing; there was nothing inherently valuable in them, nothing deserving of respect or admiration.

 Sabina had no love for that drama while Franz who, despite having written and published several scholarly books that had received considerable acclaims,  felt  that words that had been spewed out were not real life as they were ‘a sea of words with no weight and no resemblance to life’. 

How often we feel weighed down by our commitments and ties and we  struggle to gain an equilibrium between breaking free and a sense of belonging and finding meaning in our lives. Love, freedom and death make up the meaning of our lives. We desire lightness yet we cannot help feeling the weight as we celebrate our ties and commitments. Relationships are what give meanings and value in our lives. Muss es sein?Es muss seinThe Unbearable Lightness of Being is a novel which  I hope to read again as I have not fully digested all of it and I may have oversimplified the novel. The sentences are  beautifully written ( as translated from Czech by  Michael Henry Heim) and the way the narrator interjects with the author’s musings makes me want to read the book again. 

Note : This post was written in 2014. Most of it was from my first blog

Coffee Chocolate or Tennis


Travel Diary


The Lennon Wall in Prague, August 2009

On 20 August 2009, I flew from Paris to Prague with my family via Wizz air ( a budget airline which took off from Beauvais airport in Paris) and spent three days in Prague.

Prague is a beautiful medieval city. Located in a small square from the French Embassy, there lies the wall that was decorated with messages and John Lennon inspired graffiti following his tragic death in 1980. We were allowed to leave  mark on the wall in pencil, marker or chalk.

Astronomical Clock or Prague Orloj 

Prague is a picturesque city. The gothic architecture is magnificent and you cannot help snapping photos at every corner. These images were taken with a Canon EOS 400D digital camera.


4 thoughts on “As time goes by

  1. I love how you’re so well-read and well-travelled, and you must have a wealth of experiences in you that’s irreplaceable. Plus, it all makes you uniquely you.

    Also, it’s so interesting to note that you’ve already been garnering experiences when I was still trying to figure my way around my hairdressing career. Thanks for taking me on a journey through space and time with your pics!

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    1. Hiya, Thanks Stuart ! I’m a glutton when come to books primarily because I find such pleasure and comfort in reading. Reading and writing enable us to connect with other minds across time and space. Seriously I have not read enough. For instance, I have not read much of Russian writers for instance, Fyodor Dostoevsky. I have been fortunate to visit some places around the world and I am grateful for that but I cannot claim I’m well-travelled. For now, I try not to feel like I’m racing against time. To be honest, I’m still figuring my way around many things. Happy New Year!

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  2. I enjoyed this one a lot as a teen, I need to go back to it. Great presentation, as always!

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    1. Hi Emma, thank you for your kind comment.


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